The Importance of Being Your Biggest Cheerleader

How to be your biggest cheerleader

In life we’re expected to be hard on ourselves. Being outwardly tough on ourselves is seen as a sign of strength and not weakness. Also playing down our own abilities and skills, is something that we’ve become so accustomed. I’m definitely guilty of doing all of this. However, I’ve been thinking that this surely cannot be a healthy mindset. I’ve been looking at ways to try and make sure that I’m my number one cheerleader.

Over the last few months I’ve realised that being my own cheerleader is something that needs to be at my core. If you forever rely on others to show you the support you need, then you will be highly disappointed. It’s important to be the voice that tells you that ‘you can do it’ and that ‘you are worth it’. Sometimes we search high and low for that voice. If only we trained our mind to be that voice for ourselves. Imagine how much more we can do.


  1. Refine your inner voice – it’s very important to train your inner voice to be a positive force. I know that this can be very difficult, but I’ve learnt that daily inner affirmations have helped me. It may sound quite cheesy, but the more I say to myself ‘you’ve got this’ or ‘you deserve to be happy’, the more I start to believe it.
  2. Focus on the present – when you dwell on the past you tend to focus on what you’ve done wrong or what you could’ve done better. Even focusing on the future can sometimes bring about anxiety about what’s to come. I’ve started to learn that using your present time to help you develop from the past and prepare for the future, can definitely help to keep you motivated. Focus on the present to build you up so you’re strong for what’s to come.
  3. Read more – I used to hate any book that was considered ‘self-help’. I admittedly used to think they were quite pompous and for people that were weak. How wrong was I? I love to read and now my favourite books are all what you may consider ‘self-help’. I find that a lot of the time these books really equip me with the tools to ensure I am maintaining a positive mindset. This January I’ve read Happy by Fearne Cotton which is a fantastic book that I highly recommend. I have also just started reading You Are A Badass: How To Stop Doubting And Start Living An Awesome Life by Jen Sincero. Although I’ve just started reading it, this book is fast becoming one of my favourite books. If you are looking for a fantastic kick-ass pick me up book with great inspirational quotes then this is the one!
  4. Celebrate your achievements – we often don’t allow ourselves to celebrate – well ourselves. When we’ve achieved something amazing (not matter how big or small), make it a big deal for yourself. Write down what you achieved and treat yourself. When you learn to celebrate your achievements more and not downplay them, you’ll learn that you can find the joy in the smallest of things.
  5. Surround yourself with likeminded people – negativity breeds negativity. If you continuously surround yourself with people that are negative and can only identify the flaws in everything and anything, then you soon realise that you become the same. Personally for me I’ve not only taken this to apply to my friendships, but to social media too.

I hope this has helped motivate you just that little bit more. How do you try to be your own biggest cheerleader? For another motivating post, check out this one!

Speak soon,

Victoria x






  1. January 30, 2018 / 10:40 am

    Thank you so much for writing and sharing your tips. I am my own worst critic. Hopefully with your tips I can turn that around and be my cheerleader xox

  2. January 30, 2018 / 11:15 am

    I love this! I think the idea of being your own cheerleader is brilliant. It is so true that we all tend to down play our strengths to a point that we can no longer see them at all anymore. Good luck being your own cheerleader.

  3. January 30, 2018 / 1:28 pm

    I couldn’t agree more with this so often we become engaged in negative self talk when we need to do the exact opposite as you say and be your own cheerleader. It does take practice and it’s something I have been working on of late. Great post!

  4. January 30, 2018 / 1:51 pm

    I agree with this. I used to be what I thought was self depreciating – and say things like ‘Oh I’m not good at that,’ or ‘I won’t get that job.’ Kind of waiting for someone to correct me. Then a kind lady pulled me to one side and told me to be careful about what comes out of my mouth because you become what you say. That kind lady was my Mum and I have always heeded that advice. Be positive, aim high and like you said, surround yourself with positive people who support your dreams as opposed to trying to talk you out of them.

  5. January 31, 2018 / 7:54 am

    I found that self-help book or even podcast (for example about my work or blogging) always cheer me up or at least make me know where I need to go next. Plus they also make me feel so motivated and that gives me extra confidence that I can do it! A great thing when you feel down sometimes

  6. January 31, 2018 / 6:48 pm

    I need to celebrate my wins more. And I really want to start more positive thinking. I can be quite pessimistic and it gets me down x

  7. January 31, 2018 / 10:35 pm

    You are so right about negative people bringing you down. I’m also guilty of not believing in myself enough so I need to work on that.

  8. February 1, 2018 / 11:37 pm

    It’s so true! Thanks for sharing your tips.

  9. February 5, 2018 / 10:28 am

    Definitely agree that you need to be your biggest cheerleader/fan. I always tell myself that I am amazing (sounds obnoxious, I know – but its a little mantra that does help to pick up my mood off the floor and approach situations in a more positive manner

  10. February 6, 2018 / 7:37 am

    I love this post. I’m struggling at the moment as I’ve pulled back from always being the organiser, money lender, lunch payer that I used to be but now I’ve found myself pretty much left alone (even by family). It’s hard to see the positives when people only ever want stuff from you. I’ve never read any self help type books so maybe that’s something positive that I could do 🙂

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